The Mask
October 12, 2011
The mask we wear, you know the face that we let the world see, the bit that you want them to see but not the real, whole us.
Most people have a mask , or a public face or persona that they wear most of the time. It can be a different face for different people at different times and we wear it for a number of reasons . To feel safe, that they don’t know who I really am, or maybe to project a certain image that might be useful, Im competent and professional and for a number of other self decided reasons. We of course let down the mask with the people closet to us and those we feel safest with.
The Mask is useful but it is also a double edged sword. It keeps them from us but it also keeps us from them. In relationships, generally, the lower the mask - the better the quality of relationship.
The thing is, what are we so afraid of? Are we not good enough? Will they think bad of us?
Actually the reverse is true, when we let our guard down and let others see us in all our frailties , good and bad, but ultimately human, they relate to us for this one simple reason.
We are just like them, human, with good and bad, no different and the one thing we all like is PLU, People Like Us, we feel comfortable with PLU.
The more open you are with others the more open they will be with you, its win-win. Sure it wont work all the time with all the people, but what does? Look for the good, its better to have a good relationship with more than less people and have empathy for those that can't open up today
I love this - The Law of Ten Fold Return:
The more you give out the more you get back by a factor of ten. So when you let go, drop the mask and give yourself, you’ll be surprised how much you get back.
Try it and see
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